You are entitled to those opinions, certainly, MTM. But--I think you may be generalizing too much, to be honest. I support the death penalty, but, at the same time, respect and even encourage one to follow their heart and mind in respect to their sexual orientation, or anything else in theri personal lives, as long as no minors are affected, and no one gets hurt. Those two views may seem to be totally opposite, but many of my friends feel the same way. I think too many of us pigeon hole people and their beliefs. Mine, like many of my contemporaries, are all over the board, and have nothing to do with any religious uprbringing.
But I can only speak for my area---We are a melting pot here in O-H-I-O. Lots of eastern US thinking along the great lake shore, middle america-corn belt through the middle, and WVA-KY in southern Ohio. And a mixture of all in the larger cities. My point is that your experience in your area may be different.