by Cologne girl » Wed Oct 15, 2003 7:27 pm
quote:Originally posted by stevew628
Let me be blunt. I think Yoko was a horrible influence on John. As for John's words, and the spirit of the song, I don't believe that, in reality, he treated women very well over the course of his lifetime. So it rings as hypocritical to me.
Even if what John said about other men's behaviour was true for himself, this does not mean that the message itself was crap. I do believe it shows a profound understanding of the difficulties between the sexes very uncommon in ordinary males. What's more, most of us don't live up to what we think is right or wrong. We keep catching ourselves doing things we know we shouldn't be doing. The difficult thing is very well summed up in the Spanish expression "predicar con el ejemplo" (preach with the example). Any of us who have children know how hard it can be...
As for the way John treated women, I suppose for the first half of his life what you say is true. But the second half was quite a different story. Yoko was precisely not only his muse, he allowed her to play a much more active part in his life and his creativity. And whereas Julian apparently saw very little of his Dad, for Sean he took a "baby break" or whatever you call it, doing which he was well ahead of his time. I'm sure he himself realized he had made mistakes in his behaviour towards women - some of that is reflected in the song "Woman".
As for Yoko, I keep thinking her role as the "baddie" is greatly exaggerated. I am convinced the Beatles would have split up without her as well. Long before she entered the scene, the group's agony had started, you've only got to watch "Anthology" (Brian Epstein's death, John and George gradually losing interest and getting bored, the end of the tours, long and tedious studio sessions where Ringo claimed he had "learnt how to play chess"...). For me the worst thing she did was that she made him take himself too seriously. His sense of humour of the earlier years gave way to an unpleasant degree of self-importance. In the earlier years, so many times it had been his sense of humour that had kept things from gettng pathetic - when Macca came up with "Yesterday", everybody, including George Martin, was struck with awe - John just went on stage saying "Thank you Ringo, that was wonderful" and even played a practical joke. Later, it seemed to be him who would have needed someone to "get his feet back on the ground".
I know this has absolutely nothing to do with "Mind Games", but it was something I had for a long time wished to write off my mind...